When my good friend Bruce W died at home, his partner Ben M and some of Ben's friends took ourselves to the Lanai with our backs to the home 'cause Ben couldn't bear to see Bruce's body being removed by the undertaker. That being done the hospice worker joined us on the Lanai and said "at least he is in a better place now". I wanted to hit the roof and scream " you mean the mortuary". My brother Steve died in his sleep, His wife, children, grandchildren and siblings/siblings in law were (and are) cut to the core. On my return to the U.S.A. I was telling some friends about Steve's sudden death, An acquaintance listening in to our conversation said "what a way to go". This time I did scream, and was very angry. "What do you mean" I said, "my brother has left so many family members and friends who are in deep grief. How dare you say "what a way to go" without even saying "I am sorry he die...