........... Helpful words via my Jamaica Plain, MA friend Tess P. (Thanks Tess)
"I read this recently and thought it well worth sharing.:
"I just wanted to share a conversational tactic that has worked for me over many years in responding to passive misogyny, racism, homophobia, etc.. especially useful in the workplace, a simple statement: "You're not talking to somebody who shares those beliefs."
It draws a clear line, is not engaging, argumentative or combative, and can steer the conversation back on track, liberates one from being a passive participant in hate speech."