Saturday, 23 July 2016

Our Steve, and the problem of death.

How do we come to terms with the death of our nearest and dearest?

We  cannot (Unless we all too  readily accept the oft-times facile and simplistic "religious reasonings" about eternal life).

How do we come to terms with grief?

That's impossible.   (We must welcome grief, and allow it to become a part of who we are).

In the meantime we must allow ourselves to be grief-stricken, to be angry, and  to feel a sense of despair, helplessness and hopelessness when our nearest and dearest die.

My dear brother Steve died at the age of 63.  That's shitty.

Of course, the death of a younger brother should be shitty.

It's much too soon for me to be consoled.

I, with my other  siblings, together with  Steve's wife,children and grand-children are angry, sad and despairing.  The hope of eternal life in God;s presence is all very well,  but we'd prefer to have Steve with us here and now.


Beloved Steve.  

He was a fabulous husband, father and grandfather.

He was the best ever brother,

Steve hated to have his photo' taken.

Despite this one of his granddaughters, my niece Ebony took this candid of him.  I love it. It is "Steve par excellence"..

Steve's wife Angela made sure that copies were available to all of us after Steve's funeral.

I have a framed copy on my desk.

Here it is for you to see.

Savour it.   It's  "our Steve"as we all remember hum

Friday, 22 July 2016


In a recent e-mail to a friend and brother Priest  I referred to "my sexuality"

Good Lord above, that was so wrong!

It was as if human sexuality was a matter of preference along the lines of "do you prefer Fords or Chevies?" or would you rather eat a banana or an apple?

The truth is that i do not have a "sexuality".

What I have is me.  It is a "gay" me, determined by birth, and thus a gift of creation/genetic inheritance/or God.

It is me, whom I am intended to be.

It is not my choice.

It is who I am!


The Publix Script has staff saying: "It's my pleasure". (He said it, but not at work).

My local Supermarket is a a branch of the Florida based "Publix" chain.

I have mixed feelings about Publix.

One the one hand their stores are bright and clean, with a fairly good array of produce, fish  and meats. It is believed that Publix treats its employees well.

On the other hand Publix has a virtual monopoly in Florida, holding  about 64 % of the Supermarket business, with the remaining 36% divided between  upscale stores such as Fresh Market, Trader Joe.
and Whole Foods, and the perennially failing Winn-Dixie.   I do not like monopolies and I wish that Publix had a more viable competitor.

When reaching the check out at Publix it is to be greeted with a well memorised script.

FIRST   "Did you find everything?". I sometimes say "no" just to get the cashier's attention. When asked why I said "no" I reply  "I was looking for the meaning of life but couldn't find it here"

SECOND  "Is plastic O.K?"  How I wish that the script was directed in favour of paper bags, or, even better in favour of cloth bags  (yep, I use them!)

THIRD  Just before leaving the check-out, having thanked the clerk he or she will say "It's my pleasure".

TUESDAY of this week was a quiet day at my local Publix, so I asked the cashier  (a High-Schooler) if he ever utters the script in his sleep.

He doesn't believe so, but he once, when thanked by one of  his parents for taking care of a chore he replied (to their amusement), "It's my pleasure".

He did the same in the classroom  when a teacher thanked him for some reason or other. His class mates were "tickled pink"  and burst into laughter when they heard him say "It's my pleasure".

His embarrassment was mitigated a wee bit when a class-mate explained that he too worked for Publix and has those three words at the tip of his tongue too.

Wednesday, 20 July 2016

Yesterday's mystery picture

Here it is again..

I asked "why did I bring these items from the U.K. to the U.S.A.?"

It has to do with cooking.

For you see,  U.K. and U.S.A. solid and liquid  measures are not  identical.

Thus when I am using a U.K. recipe I have to remember that tablespoons and teaspoons have different sizes in the U.K. than in the U..S.A,,  and  that American and British pints differ.

It's hard, though not impossible, to make the mental adjustments so (to make my culinary adventures easier)  I came back to my home with some U.K. measuring items.

U.K. Tablespoon (L)                                                                                (U.S.A. Tablespoon (R)

U.S.A. Teaspoon (L)                                                                                      U.K. Teaspoon (R) 

Comparative sizes L - R  

U.K. Tablespoon, U.S.A Tablespoon, U.S.A Teaspoon, U.K. Teaspoon.


The ingredient measurements are also crucial when it comes to liquids.  This picture shows a U.K. measuring jug on the left, and a U.S.A jug on the right.

However the photo' is not terribly helpful.

This is:

(a) because the U.K. measuring jug on the left (which I bought in the lovely Gloucestershire town of Tetbury) is made of moulded plastic with measurements which are hard to read,  whilst the U.S.A measuring jug made of glass with clear and printed measurements in red.

(b) the measuring jugs are not of the same shape and size,


(a)  I can use the U.K. cup when using British recipes, and the U,S.A cup when using American recipes...  and

(b) it is useful to know that the "Imperial" (Britsh) pint is 20% larger than the American pint.

(c) We'd be wiser in both countries if all our measurements (liquids, solids, distances etc) used the entirely logical metric system,  But that would be so un-British and un-American!

Tuesday, 19 July 2016

Imported by me from the U.K.

I imported these three items from the U.K.

Do you know why?

Monday, 18 July 2016

- TODAY 18th July 2016

18th July 2016,  Sarasota FL  at 3:49 p.m. (USA Eastern Summer Tine)


Lunch today (18th July 2016)  - fabulous Vegetable Soup, made from scratch by my friend , the ever blessed Charlotte \