Memorial Day is not about Veterans. They have their own day,
It is not about Active Military. They have their own day.
It is about the tragic toll of human deaths in times of conflict.
See this (via my friend Mark D) and please overlook the error in punctuation.
Older Americans will know that Memorial Day has its origin in what was called Decoration Day see:
All of us should give pause on Monday to remember that our American Wars (whether or not they were wise or necessary) carry with them a dreadful toll of human deaths, and the burden of grief carried by widows (and in modern days widowers or partners) ,orphans, parents, siblings, uncles,aunts, cousins etc.
For some perspective please see this: